These days my focus has been on keeping myself resourced. Checking in with my body – regularly – for what I truly need. Resourcing – in nervous system terms – helps our bodies move out of survival > into a state where there's more safety, connection and choice. Resourcing helps us stay with activation – without getting overwhelmed or leaving the body. Activation that can look like: becoming defensive, aggressive, blaming, judging wanting to run away, leave the situation feel

[see also video below] There's something that's been very revealing and potent for me which I want to share: The difference between sadness tears and frustration tears. Particularly, I want to speak about the latter; Frustration tears. These come up not because there's something to grieve, something inherently sad. But because you are actually angry. And that anger is often coupled with fear. Let's dissect this a little: Anger tends to point us to our needs. If those needs

There's a topic I have lots of energy around: It is depression and how it is commonly 'treated'. When I hear how people are being encouraged to take medication without that the body and the nervous system are being considered , and specifically anger – that's what comes up in me: anger. Or maybe it is passion. (Some say every emotion has two poles. In that framework, anger and passion function as a pair). Anyways. In Somatic Experiencing, we learn that depression is not rare

„Sometimes, it is shocking how disconnected we are from our soul. And… it’s so painful. Which is actually good - because it guides us back, it reminds us… It’s painful by design.“ – said Tabeah . (or at least something along the line) I found a teacher. Who encourages me to listen . Who invites me to soften by opening every cell and giving myself generously to my voice, my soul. Who tells me it‘s good to want – and then let go. Who reminds me to fall in love with the inhale

"Instead of treating the diagnosis, WELCOME THE PERSON. This will lead them to health." …I read in the notes I took during my last Somatic Experiencing training module. Which makes me think about many things: 1) How f*** wise this is. And how grateful I am that Reiki came into my life, because I strengthen this muscle of "no fixing" with this practice. The first 21 days are for self-practice, and therein I remind myself again & again: let go. Simply allow the energy to flow.

5 days Reiki with 5 women who flew in from Switzerland. In Bali. There are many aspects that have touched me... I want to share with you a potpourri of thoughts that are working in me. Let's see where it leads: Mother tongue (aka Swiss German) Language is so connected to our subconscious. I understand that whenever I talk Swiss German, I do feel more free. I am more me, the original me. (that's why it's often recommended to have therapy in one's mother tongue – we access the

If you feel abandoned by the world, Can you imagine your mother standing on the left behind you, supporting you, putting her hand on your shoulder, can you feel her love? And your father on the right, supporting you? Can you feel his strength? Can you remember a moment when your mother held you, where you felt supported by her? Can you remember a moment where your father did that, where you felt his support, his strength? And if right now this doesn't come easy to you, maybe

Also building nervous system resiliency and regulating is a habit. A habit that requires dedication, a certain structure, in which we feel safe.

What brought you to Bali? Here's a little of my story.

An invitation by my wonderful wise SE teacher Efu Nyaki. Access my somatic mini-guide "A Map Back to Your Body" here.

Fawning is normal. A normal nervous system response. A response that comes up when to our body it seems all other options are more dangerous than to please, agree, comply. Our nervous system wants for us to survive. If you nod the head where you actually have a different opinion... If you yes and go with what another person suggested... If you stick to a promise rather than to break it although there's big resistance now... – then, your nervous system interprets this as the o

"In the present moment - we were safe. Even when the alarm on our phones showed up, telling us we need to go to the ground floor because an attack is looming - we were still safe in this present moment." What a beautiful reminder by a peer of mine of the Somatic Experiencing studies. On their way from Europe to India to start the next training module with us, the war started - and they were stuck in Dubai for 1 week. She studied, practiced hands on – on herself and her immedi

Women, anger, and the disconnection from our bodies that make us susceptible to romances in which we suffer. How to shift this pattern.

Yesterday morning, quite out of the blue, I had the impulse to write on tumblr again. After 15 years! I realize I’m somewhat tired of Instagram. I feel pressured often, a pressure to be, do, express myself in a certain way. A pressure to achieve something. Which creates the opposite: it blocks me. This is my antidote.